Monday, January 6, 2014

It's my blog and I'll vent if I want to.

Thank you to whoever read my last post and either commented or contacted me about it. I really appreciate it. I know I didn't have to blog about any of the falling out considering we're now back together, but if you've been reading my blog for a little while you know that I do my best to always tell it like it is. 

I'm hesitant to mention this on here because I worry one day my guy might read my blog and not really enjoy this post. However, I'm pretty annoyed by something and would love to know how other people would handle the situation. 

During the fight and falling out, David obviously turned to his friends for advice and what not. There's nothing wrong with that, we all do it. The thing is, some of these friends I haven't met. Some of these friends I've secretly never wanted to meet. 

For example, once a group of his friends had a dinner and I wasn't allowed to go because I wasn't "on the list." Being the good boyfriend that he is, he complained about it until they finally decided I was allowed to come over. I did not join because I don't accept pity invites. Also, I've known a couple of the people for years and knew that they wouldn't not allow me to join. Therefor, I knew who decided on this cool people list and since then I've done everything to avoid meeting them. 

Back to the falling out. Some of his friends decided to tell him how he should of handled the situation. Very mature advice such as kicking me out in the middle of the night, leaving me in the cold and never talking to me again. They also made sure to put all of these what if thoughts in his head and made sure to convince him that if he gave me another chance that he's weak and I'll just know I can get away with anything. 

Luckily, with all of these thoughts in his head he still talked things out with me and gave me another chance. Clearly those mature, advice-giving friends are just oh so happy. I saw a post on his fb from one of the friends... 



I wanted to comment, "It's officially official, you're a bitch." But, I just hit "like" and left it at that.

Then we changed the stupid relationship status back to in a relationship. How adorable is it that another friend commented, "gay." I kept thinking about a response, but stuck to the "like" approach. 

I know that I should be grateful that he didn't allow them to influence him enough to not give me another chance. But, seriously? These are adults, grow up and stop being so bitter about someone else's happiness. I haven't decided if I'm going to bring this up to him or not. I also don't know how to not be so bothered by it. Grr.


What would you do in this situation? 

2 comments:

  1. Sweet girl where to begin? First & foremost you should never hide who you are on your blog you being you is what makes your blog yours! Some may love your post & some may not but its not for them to decided.. Now to the matter at hand, I am so sorry you went through what you did with David! I am sure it was neither fun or easy.. I feel like he should have never made you leave in the middle of the night that was rude & very disrespectful if he did not want to sleep next to you he could have simply asked you sleep on the couch at least verses telling you to leave at a not so decent hour! I do not think it was fair of his friends to say anything to you giving the situation if they knew you that might have been different but seeing how they would not even let you come to some party at the beginning should have been proof enough to not ask them of their opinion!

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  2. my now husband, boyfriend at the time, had gone on a church mission and I dated a bunch of other guys while he was gone. but we had this agreement that I would be single when he got home and we would see how things went after that. so soon after he got home, we started talking and hanging out but his friends kept saying that I was this horrible horrible person because I dated other guys and that he deserved better and blah blah blah. for like months it was like this. and like you, the worst part was that they didn't even know me personally. it was what they saw on facebook or the internet. such a joke. I totally understand like asking for advice from friends, but when they are downright disrespectful and he goes along with it, that screams volumes about who he is. I think its worth bringing up. just say hey listen, i'm glad we have the opportunity to work things out but if we are going to do this we need to be open and honest about things and this is something we need to discuss. and if he makes a big deal about it, i'd leave. easier said than done so good luck with all of this.

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